The next time someone accuses you of being negative, ask yourself: “Who has the problem?”
Someone who appears to be happy and cheerful with a smile on their face and a song in their mouth may actually be deluded and blind to the circumstances around them.
I give you permission (not that I need to) to be negative.
Acknowledging your current situation might just be the catalyst for change you need.
“This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end — which you can never afford to lose — with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.” Admiral James Stockdale 1923 – 2005
Stockdale did not deny his circumstances (prisoner of war, Vietnam, 1965 – 1973) – he acknowledged them. Stockdale did not lose faith although I am sure it was tested. Where others did not last, he did – not by being optimistic but by being a realist. Not all situations are under your control and sometimes the circumstances are genuinely dire – no amount of false hope will change that.
Negativity often highlights an underlying issue that needs to be addressed, and suppressing it denies the opportunity to bring about a solution. Acknowledge it, speak up, speak out.
No change ever happened to improve a situation without someone first being critical, negative or rebellious.
Will people be offended? Yes .
Will leaders like it? No.
But having – and voicing – a negative thought is not wrong. Being critical is essential. Disagreement is necessary.
Paul S Allen blogs at thewaterside.co.nz.